4 hours ago
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
At the time I was as clearheaded and healthy as I have ever been in my life, and I remain certain that what I saw and experienced that day was no illusion and no mere anomaly of precipitation, light, or perspective.
No, what I saw, and captured time and again in my hands, were bubbles, multiform and frequently sheened with shimmering rainbows, and moving and behaving exactly as bubbles are known to move and behave. They floated, bobbed, drifted down in a steady, languid shower and then sailed and shimmied on the breeze.
There was no mistaking the bubbles for mere globules or droplets. Nor was there anything of the quality of berm or the fleeting and insubstantial products of carbonation; these were real, unmistakable bubbles, and most of them were at least as large as Christmas tree ornaments. A few of the bubbles I encountered were as large as volleyballs.
A man who wanders for a solid half hour in an utterly benign shower of bubbles will of course seek an explanation for such a phenomenon. My hosts at the time, an elderly couple who were distant relatives, were nothing if not matter-of-fact characters, and they did not seem to find my story entirely credible. They politely admitted that they had neither heard of nor experienced such an admitted curiosity. The other locals were no more credulous regarding my tale, and I was left with a mystery that has only grown more wondrous with age.
I spent three years in Scotland after graduating from college. I was trying to scare up a sociology dissertation that I never did get around to writing or even properly conceiving. When I returned to the U.S. I often found myself regaling friends with the tale of the day it rained bubbles. This was usually over drinks --for a great many years after my return I conducted most of my conversations over drinks-- and I discovered that listeners who were sufficiently lubricated were generally willing to find the story more credible and to offer up all manner of hypothetical explanations for what I experienced. None of these attempts at explanation, however, struck me as satisfactory or sufficient.
Nearly thirty years after I stood there in the middle of that forlorn, windswept place staring up with wonder into a sky filled with swaying bubbles, I placed a call to a local meteorologist of some renown and told him my story. He asked a number of questions that seemed to me irrelevant and then lapsed into a momentary silence.
Finally he said, in an almost apologetic tone of voice, "This was, as you say, quite a long time ago, and I'm guessing that what you're telling me didn't happen exactly as you remember it."
I thanked him for his time and hung up the phone.
Here's the thing, though: it did happen exactly as I remember it. I can still picture my dog leaping in the air and snapping happily at the bubbles. I can still see a particularly perfect specimen resting in my palm and then bursting without a sound.
I walked through nature in a shower of bubbles.
I was young, and in a rare, happy place in my life. And though it pains me still that I was unable to share the experience with another person who could also carry that wonder with them for the remainder of their time in this world, I'm nonetheless grateful for that single corroboration of one of my earliest and most fiercely held beliefs, which is that life is so much more --more magical, but also just plain more-- than most of us ever even try to imagine.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
I read your lovely words.
I looked with admiration at your photographs and paintings.
I admired your talent.
I admired your passion.
I thought about how smart and funny you are.
I thought about your intensity, and envied you the courage of your convictions.
I remembered your beautiful smile and the sound of your splendid laugh.
I thought of that long conversation we once had, and how alive it made me feel.
I thought of all the times you've made me feel so alive, and how grateful I felt to be so alive.
I remembered the lights of the carnival that we saw looming across the dark fields, and the fireflies we watched from the top of the hill, and the marvelous light of Paris in late spring, and those quiet nights on the dock, and the other nights we listened to music and danced, and all the other nights when we sat quietly and read.
Sometimes there were a bunch of us, and it was magical, and other times there was just you and me, and that was also magical.
I remembered the time you all showed up to help me move.
I remembered when you called and offered me a job I was absolutely unqualified for, and how grateful I still am for that.
I remembered how much you taught me that has made my life possible.
I remembered when I was fucked-up and broken and you sat on my bed and told me exactly the right thing to do.
I remembered the times we huddled together for warmth and comfort as we watched someone we love die.
I remembered all the times we walked together, following a dog.
I remembered waiting anxiously for your child to be born, and how thrilled I was for you when you made some long journey to finally bring your baby home.
I remembered how much you loved the river, that place up north, the cabin in Vermont, the camp in the Adirondacks, the Upper Peninsula, your old family home, New York, driving, Christmas, Shakespeare, Jimmy Reed, Joy Division, old movies, your dog, your cat, chicken pot pies, baseball, boxing, boats, The Little Prince, the memory of dancing on your father's feet, the sound of your mother's voice, your brother who died too young, soul music, Laura Ingalls Wilder, that stuffed rabbit, Johnny Cash, Breakfast at Tiffany's, being with your sister, hanging out with your old friends, building bonfires, Michael Jackson, coffee, complimentary soda water, Scrabble, sleeping in, truck stop breakfasts, The New Yorker, Randy Newman, crossword puzzles, the State Fair, all of your beloved rituals and routines.
There were so many things you loved, and your love was contagious. I hope you still love those things, and haven't lost too much of what you love.
I remembered that poem you read to me. All the poems you read to me.
I remembered all the times you saved me from drowning.
I remembered when we walked together on a beach in Florida at night and talked about the astronauts that had been blown two days earlier from the sky.
I remembered when we closed our eyes and made a wish.
I remembered how you refused to give up on a disposable razor, and had a drawer full of the damn things.
I remembered that time you tried to learn magic, and the old magic store you once dragged me into in Geneva, New York.
I remembered that time in your studio, when you shot photos of me fucking around, and how many costume changes I put you through, and how hard we laughed.
I remembered that zine you used to publish, and the way you used to play a right-handed guitar left-handed.
I remembered the times we hitchhiked across the country, and hopped trains, and the time we got so lost in the fog that we ended up pitching our tent in an old woman's backyard.
I remembered the time a bunch of thugs were beating and kicking a man in the subway and you instinctively waded right into the fray, screaming profanities and throwing punches, and made them flee.
I remembered how kind you were, and how you always made me feel interesting.
I remembered reading the emails you sent me when I was a grown man running away from home, and how I sat alone in a public library somewhere in Canada and cried.
I remembered how desperately I wanted to find you the perfect gift or to make you something beautiful.
I remembered the time we tried to build a roller coaster in our backyard.
I remembered the time we laughed our way through "2001: A Space Odyssey" and lobbed Sno-Caps at the screen until they kicked us out of the theater.
I thought of you holding a blue-eyed dog in your arms on a muggy night in August and letting him go.
I thought of the time in Ireland when the little boy on the train asked to see your muscles.
I thought of that smashing green suit you bought at Reach Out on Lake Street, and how lovely you looked in it.
I thought about you poking around out there by the refinery, and wondered if you'd taken the broken man from my hands and made him come truly alive.
I thought of your chapped little feet.
I thought about the way you did that little shuffle dance to Low's "Just Like Christmas," and the way we sang along at the top of our lungs to The New Christy Minstrels while driving on Christmas morning.
I thought about how proud I was to see your band play for the first time.
I thought about how much we've come to resemble each other, and how much I wish I could sing like you.
I thought about all the fireworks we've seen.
I thought about the time you showed up to play softball with a glove held together with guitar strings.
I thought about all the times I kicked your ass in Wiffleball.
I thought about our last trip to old Yankee Stadium.
I thought about all the baseball games we've seen together.
I thought about your nightly text messages and how much they mean to me.
I thought about that backyard talent show that now seems so long ago.
I thought of you in London, and of you preparing to move into your first home.
I thought of you in Mexico, and you in Poland, and you in Sweden, and I missed you.
I thought about the life you have in front of you, and how marvelous I expect it to be, and how I can't wait to see all the ways you surprise me.
I thought about how thrilled I am to have your art hanging on my walls. I thought about you on your way to Los Angeles, and hoped a whole lot of people there will buy your art to hang on their own walls and will love it as much as I do.
I thought about the homemade chocolates you deliver to my door every Christmas, and your splendid company, and the dozens of acts of kindness --small and large-- you have shown me.
I thought of the time we played ball in the park with your son, and how it filled me with both joy and a weird sadness. I thought about the obvious love that existed between you and your boy, and the way he looked at you exactly the way I remember looking at my own father, and the way you looked at him exactly the way I remember my father looking at me.
I thought about how happy I was to have found you again.
I thought of that huge old boat you used to have, the one with the greenhouse on the upper deck, and I thought of your orchids and the incomparable days at the camp in the Adirondacks and your sketchbooks and your love of gardening and your impossibly beautiful garden in Michigan and that stunningly comfortable house on the St. Joseph River and that magical place in Montana.
I thought of the time you gave me a souvenir from the 1965 World Series that had belonged to your father.
I thought about how wrong it is that you are in prison, and hoped that you are holding up all right and know how often I do think about you.
I remembered the thrill of going to see your play performed for the first time.
I remembered the time I bailed you out of jail, and the time you drove 200 miles to visit me in treatment, and the time you banged on my doors and windows and stood on my doorstep and yelled, "Look, take your goddamn time, but just know that I'm going to wait you out and I'm not going anywhere until you let me in."
I remembered letting you in, and being glad that I did.
I thought about all those weird and wonderful CD mixes you sent me, and the annual Christmas cards that continue to come without fail.
I thought about our lunches and dinners at the Band Box and Bob's and Archie's and Steve's, and at all those drive-ins on the road; I thought about the Korean place in Brattleboro, and the drunk Hibachi chef, and all the times we ate steak on my birthday or had backyard barbecues.
I thought about all the times you cut my hair, and how happy I always was to be with you and just listen to you talk.
I thought about how happy I was to see you at Palmer's that night.
I thought about you in that hospital room, alone at night and staring at the ceiling, and I hoped you would always remember that you are one of my heroes, and that you knew how desperately I wished I could drive across town with an ice-cold Bubble Up, load you in the car, and finally bring you home.
I thought about you in South America, and how envious I am of your adventures and how so many of my own adventures would not have been possible if you hadn't taken me in.
I thought about the thing we used to do where we'd pretend we were The Hold Steady performing the essays of Terry Tempest Williams. I remembered watching you pull an Edward Gorey book down from a high shelf in some bookstore, and experiencing a moment of painful deja vu.
I thought about driving around in the Panhandle poking around in fish camps, and eating oysters and talking fishing with some of the locals. I remembered you playing "Lola" on a guitar in a music store in St. Joe's. I remember staying up late and talking.
I thought about all the times we talked on the phone until my battery died.
I thought about all those old photographs, and how it mostly doesn't hurt to look at them anymore.
I remembered that wondrous little felt donkey you made me, and how you stitched into it the words, "Steadfast and True."
I remembered walking around in an abandoned Santa's Land amusement park in the middle of the summer and watching a herd of reindeer disappear into the woods, where we found the ruins of a tiny railroad.
I remembered your Talbots door and your shiny black pointers and your neighbor's addiction to the FryBaby.
I remembered the Wish Book, and how desperately I wished for those things.
I remembered waiting for hours for the sound of your car wheels hitting the gravel at the bottom of the hill.
I remembered when I first heard Van Morrison in your bedroom.
I remembered the letters you used to send me, and the notes you used to leave me.
I remembered when you time and again pointed out things I wouldn't otherwise have noticed.
I remembered when we had that big dream, and tried to make it real, and failed.
I remembered how much you loved "Moon River" and "Hey Ya" and "Somewhere Over the Rainbow."
I remembered the stories we used to tell each other about the way we thought the world would be.
I thought about you.
I thought about what you might be up to now.
I remembered that one time, and another one after that, and another one, and there wasn't anything sad about any of it. It all seemed rare and precious and miraculous, and barely real, or at least not real in the terrifying way this world so often feels real.
And so I did something I don't often do: I thought about how lucky I am. I thought about how grateful I am to have found you in this crowded, impossible world, and how I hope none of us is done yet and there will still be more and that I'll take you with me when I go.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
A Sunday. I was home for
Christmas and had watched
the Vikings lose to the Philadelphia
Eagles and then I had gone
to the Sterling Twin theater
to watch Rocky IV. I know these
things because everything then
seemed important and so I tried
to keep a journal of that time. In the
funny pages of that morning's paper
Calvin and Hobbes built a snow fort,
and Calvin declared, "Together, a
veritable fist of defiance, we stand
immune to any onslaught!
We are invincible!"
Somewhere else in the world
that day, Paul Wolfowitz celebrated
his 42nd birthday by drinking the blood
of a poor woodcutter's only son.
There was no internet, of course,
no cellphones or iPods. I didn't even
yet own a Walkman. I was bored out
of my mind. I considered myself young
enough, though, that the world might
still be whatever I dreamed it might be.
All the same, the birth of Christ
couldn't happen fast enough that year.
News traveled swiftly, just not as swiftly
as it does now. D. Boon was already dead
by the time I went up to my room to listen to
records that night, but I didn't know that yet.
He was only twenty-seven years old,
and he had been one of the most
alive human beings I had ever seen.
A friend had to walk across town the
next morning to deliver the news.
I remember that I sat on the couch,
stunned and silent, while my friend paced
and ranted. "Do you realize," he said,
"that we could probably go out and knock
on every door in this town and not manage
to turn up a single Minuteman record?
Tell me that's not fucked. Explain to me
how that's not totally fucked."
This was now a long time ago,
and we were still young and fierce
about the things we loved and had
discovered that made us feel almost
comfortable with our difference,
but I nonetheless couldn't tell him.
I couldn't explain to him, and all
these years later I still could not
tell him, still could not explain
how that was not totally fucked.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
This was a long, long time ago, drugs were involved, and the person who believed this is now somewhere among the dead.
A number of years ago I was traveling west from Minnesota, headed for the Rocky Mountains. I was in a car with someone beloved to me, and at some point in perhaps eastern Montana we pulled off the road at a place where you could see the land rolling unbroken for what seemed a hundred miles in any direction. We had been traveling along a two-lane highway that saw very little traffic, and I seem to remember that we had gone something like an hour without seeing another vehicle. We had been keeping track.
As we were standing there surrounded by all that space and silence I mentioned to my traveling companion the story about listening intently and hearing the dead clear their throats.
"Out here you can sometimes hear the dead sing," she said. "It helps, of course, if it's a still day, and sunrise and dusk are the best times."
"Is this speculation?" I asked.
She shrugged, and then said, "I might know. I might have heard the dead sing."
We both stood there for a moment, listening.
"What do the dead sing?" I asked.
"Whatever they want," she said. "And whenever they want. They're so far away that you shouldn't necessarily expect to be able to make out what they're singing. There are so many of them, and it's not like you might think. There's not some giant chorus in heaven. No choir robes. There's no reason the dead should have to put up with direction of any kind anymore. I also don't believe the dead are bound to conventional human ideas regarding harmony, and even when a bunch of them are singing at once they most likely aren't singing the same song. I think they just sing all the songs they ever loved. I guess the best way to describe it is that it would be like hearing millions of transistor radios playing all at once, from far away across a big lake at dusk."
"Maybe they clear their throats in preparation for singing," I said. "Maybe that's what my old friend claimed he could hear."
"Maybe," she said.
"What about dogs?" I asked. "Do the dogs among the dead sing?"
"Of course," she said. "They're even easier to hear, if you've spent any time in this world tuned into a dog's heart. They sing nothing but 'Howdy! Howdy! Howdy!' and 'Yup! Yup! Yup!' and all sorts of variations of 'Hooray!'"
We listened some more, and then she nodded emphatically and said, "This is definitely the kind of place where you can hear the dead sing. Sometimes I imagine that they are singing the names of all those they ever loved and had to leave behind, and they're singing purely for the joy of remembering and translating those beloved names into music."
I said that I liked that idea. This woman wasn't by any stretch of the imagination a hippie, and was certainly not given to this sort of talk. That was probably why the experience was so memorable and kind of unnerving for me.
She said we should all shut up more often and just listen. "Names are faces and voices, and faces and voices are memories, and all memories are music," she said. "I'm sure that's what the dead must believe, and what they give voice to when they sing. Someone might be singing your name at this very moment, your name and the names of all those you love in this world and have never properly regarded or celebrated as music. What if someone at perfect peace was out there somewhere singing, 'Bradley Dean, Bradley Dean, Bradley Dean'? Wouldn't you love to hear that? Or if they were just singing, 'Baby, baby, baby,' and you recognized their voice and knew they were singing about you? Wouldn't that be worth listening a long time for?"
Yes, I said, or certainly thought. Something like that would definitely be worth listening a long time for.
We eventually got back in the car and continued west, and in the remaining time we spent together I don't believe we ever again talked about the singing of the dead.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Some afternoons, just as the sun was settling beyond the rolling hills to the west, I'd hike back home with a burlap bag full of fables. My boots would be caked with mud, my back would be aching, and I'd be exhausted from all the sun and fresh air, but I still couldn't wait to empty that bag on my kitchen floor so I could look over my recent acquisitions.
I once lugged home a bag full of squirming trolls. On other occasions I pulled from my sack a turtle with wings like those of a dragonfly, a collection of breathing mushrooms with dark and inquisitive eyes, and a tiny pirate chest full of mice the color of poppies. Once upon a time I found a stooped and tiny man with flowing white hair and a long beard. Fairies were nesting in his beard. This old man was both the remnant of some fable and an immense repository of fables. He sat on the edge of my kitchen table and told me the story of a giant who once roamed the local woods with the moon in a pack on his back. On windy days the giant would run through a meadow full of wild flowers, flying the tethered moon like a kite.
One day at sunset, the old man related to me in a voice so squeaky and small that I had to kneel to make out his words, a hawk was perched in a tree at the edge of the meadow, admiring the spectacle of the giant's luminous kite sailing into the gloaming. The kite, the hawk thought, would make a lovely addition to the night sky.
And as it sat there admiring this quiet spectacle, the hawk saw an arrow suddenly strike the giant squarely in the chest. The giant toppled backwards, the little man told me, and his feet rose momentarily like a seesaw before disappearing again into the tall grass and flowers. As the giant fell, he lost his grip on his kite's tether and the moon drifted slowly skyward, growing ever smaller as it rose and assumed its now familiar place in the heavens.
The hawk, with its keen and beady eyes, then saw a cat --wearing a red felt cap and in possession of a bow and a quiver of arrows-- make a dash for the dark woods at the edge of the meadow. In the blink of an eye, the little man said, the hawk swooped down from its place in the tree, snatched the cat in its talons, and carried it away to its nest, where the giant-slayer and liberator of the moon was promptly eviscerated.
I always interrogated the fables I brought home with me from the woods, and I also unfailingly released them again before retiring for the evening. Some of the fables I found in those days would leave me dazzled and mulling for many days. They changed me, and changed the way I look at the world and my place in it. They made me want to live to a ripe old age.
As I grew older, though, it became harder and harder for me to get back to my old fable hunting grounds. My life was crowded with work and other responsibilities and obligations. When I did manage to sneak away I found that the fables were increasingly difficult to find, and again and again I returned home empty-handed and disappointed.
I have since read that fables have become almost entirely extinct in America, or have been reduced to little more than grim little lessons and morals without the magic. It is my understanding, however, that patches of fables may still be found in parts of Latin and South America, in obscure corners of Eastern Europe, and in small pockets of Africa and the Middle East.
It is my hope that in the time still left to me I will one day venture to some of these places in search of the lost magic that was the stuff of so much happiness and so many old and wonderful dreams.